I get your point, but I think maybe it's the "female gender roles" themselves that are the root of the stress (and male gender roles, not trying to be exclusionary). What if you're not living up to this particular gender role? What if you don't value your relationship more than your job? What if you don't have a sorority house full of friends? Those are both things that society is telling you a women SHOULD be doing and SHOULD be successful at. How is that any different than a man who is not living up to his society-imposed gender roles?
None of what I'm talking about is specific to narcissists, however, so I digress.
I don't understand the logic that there is some how less stress for women because society "encourages us" to "value relationships" (ie pressures us to be married, have babies). I feel far less stress about judging my self-worth based on my job than on my personal life.
Ignoring a whole lot of squick here and replying specifically to the idea that an age has been pulled out of thin air. There has to be some sort of standard. It has to be consistent and impartial. It has to be the right choice for most of the people most of the time. That age ranges by state according to "whatever level of prudery is locally popular" but falls generally between 16 and 18. Who would issue these "license to consent" cards to precocious 9 year olds? Perhaps an older man interested in banging children? Is there a test you have to pass or are these consent cards just handed out if by 4th grade (4th grade!) you're getting A's at school? Who's parent is going to agree to them obtaining a license to fuck at the age of 9? If some 9 year olds are competent to consent to sex, are the competent to drive? Vote? Join the army? How do you tell the difference between a child smart enough to consent and one whose parent has coached them because they're eager for the kid to have the license to drive-fuck-work-fight-die? It's such a ridiculously slippery slope you're talking about here. I think it's probably much more reasonable for a few old pervs to masturbate to Hannah Montana reruns and a few super mature 12 year olds to wait a few years.
This is just the first reference I came up with on google: [www.solvedating.com] but I've read similar statistics elsewhere before.
It says about 15% of men are taller than 6 feet. So I thought 5'10 being taller than (or same height as) 80% of guys seems reasonable. I'm 5'11 so if I put on 4 inch heels I'm 6'3. The percentage of men taller than that is so small the chart at the link doesn't even show it.
And like everyone else is saying, we should be telling girls (and boys) that this doesn't matter. Not telling them the boys will catch up.
It says about 15% of men are taller than 6 feet. So I thought 5'10 being taller than (or same height as) 80% of guys seems reasonable. I'm 5'11 so if I put on 4 inch heels I'm 6'3. The percentage of men taller than that is so small the chart at the link doesn't even show it.
And like everyone else is saying, we should be telling girls (and boys) that this doesn't matter. Not telling them the boys will catch up.
I hate this "the boys will catch up" thing they tell tall girls in middle school. If you are 5"10 some of them will catch up. But you'll be taller than about 80% of guys. And when you put on heels like 99% of them.
Here's why I live in denial about my fertility. What the fuck am I supposed to do about it? Yeah, I'd like to have the choice about whether or not to have kids and that window is rapidly closing. Should I have a kid I can't afford before my eggs expire? Should the next guy who comes along be the father whether I think he's the right person or not? People are not in denial, they are being optimistic about something they don't have control over.
I'm just going to go ahead and ignore all the other nonsense being debated here and say that I think saying "some sad sports news" about Joe Frazier shows denotes far more serious respect than the term "major sadface". I disagree with your interpretation that "major sadface" is some how showing MORE concern or compassion. It's a cutesie netspeak phrase they used to show some solidarity for a guy who lost his dog. I don't see the problem here. Would you have liked it better if there was some "sad dog news" and a "major sadface" for Joe Frazier?
But most important, remember that it's super uncool to be a single lady interested in getting married and having babies. Let's shame ladies for NOT getting married and having babies, but let's ALSO shame them for being concerned about finding husbands or anxious about their declining fertility. You're supposed to be a smart, financially secure, totally independent woman living a fabulous single life full of rich experiences and friends who is not focusing on "settling down" or "finding a man". But then be sure to just coincidentally have those things happen too. Before you're 35.
I would now like to read a response from Amber Cole's mother and her boyfriend, who have casually been blamed for a host of things from bad parenting to sexual abuse. Also, need to find out how Kim Kardashian feels about apparently being the way any young girl would learn to perform oral sex.
This is like Weight Watchers points but crappy and confusing. I would be a big fan of putting Weight Watchers points on everything.
It's "only" a social construct that keeps us from having sex with children.
Just have to mention that the second season of Justified has one of the most compelling women I've seen on TV in a long time. Margot Martindale is amazing as Mags Bennett and deserves all the Emmy's. Then there are Ava, Winona, and young Loretta who are all wonderfully written female characters. Justified is not as much of a dude show as many assume.
No. Hollywood is allergic and he wants to make money.
My favorite part of being really tall is hanging out with my guy friends who are all the same height as me (or shorter) and hearing them refer to someone like Khloe Kardashian as "huge" or "a monster" because she is 5'10. My exact height. And she is a smaller size. It feels AWESOME. Nice guys will refer to such women as "a big girl".
I think it's pretty easy to say that this problem is with the men. That any man who is made to feel insecure by a woman taller than him is not worth having. But we all have insecurities and we all have preferences. It don't even think it's BAD that men might prefer a woman shorter than they are, but it certainly does shrink my dating pool considering I am an inch taller than the average height for men . And I am taller than 95% of women, which means it's definitely not hard for them to find another girl who makes them feel more comfortable.
I think it's pretty easy to say that this problem is with the men. That any man who is made to feel insecure by a woman taller than him is not worth having. But we all have insecurities and we all have preferences. It don't even think it's BAD that men might prefer a woman shorter than they are, but it certainly does shrink my dating pool considering I am an inch taller than the average height for men . And I am taller than 95% of women, which means it's definitely not hard for them to find another girl who makes them feel more comfortable.
This article grosses me out. I can imagine a similar article explaining/justifying men ruling out an ENTIRE AGE GROUP of women. Like say, women over 30. Maybe because they're too complicated, too focused on career, obviously broken in some way if they haven't found someone to settle down with and start a family by that age. I just hate the idea of holding people's age and singleness against them. No matter how old and no matter what gender.
Whose to say these "younger men" won't reach the age of 40 and be in a similar state of rudderless disillusionment over their lost potential? Or does marriage fix everything?
Whose to say these "younger men" won't reach the age of 40 and be in a similar state of rudderless disillusionment over their lost potential? Or does marriage fix everything?
Oh good, I'm glad there is a cute term for the poundage I have worked for a year to reach through not comfort eating and not being pregnant and which is actually not even so overweight for my height. Marvel! I have pulled a deuce!
I just want to point out that it isn't just white people who have this fear. My boss is of Polish decent and I have seen people of all races balk at pronouncing her name. Some won't even try (even with her coaching them.) Some insist she must have some easier to pronounce nickname. Co-workers call her by her initials against her wishes. It's amazing how rude people are about it. As though you don't deserve to be called your actual name if it's difficult for them.
Also, it's really not that hard. I got it right the first time.
Also, it's really not that hard. I got it right the first time.
I wonder how many men between 33 and 45 are childless. I bet it's something like....oh, I don't know, ALMOST HALF?
Next you're going to tell me that guy on the Venice boardwalk's family wasn't really taken by ninjas and he doesn't need money for karate lessons. What is the world coming to!!!
I hate it when people say "i love you" and what they really mean is: "I find you amusing when our paths cross once a year."
