But who doesn't know the connotations of using the word "chink" even next to a picture of an Asian person?? It's hard to believe that someone didn't think they were being sly with wordplay and was actually an insensitive douche thinking he could get away with racism because the Asian-American community generally isn't as outspoken about these matters as blacks.
If I have to reevaluate the way I feel about Miley Cyrus AND Beyonce in one month my head is going to explode...
um, am I the only one impressed as shit that Beyonce is having a go at painting? I'm not a Beyonce fan but for some reason that makes me seriously happy.
I freakin love Drake.
word. I bet Jay-Z's head is about to explode over that news. I heard him and Beyonce were pissed and active about trying to steer RiRi away from Brown after the incident (the one that went public but apparently not the first time things got violent between them).
conversely my mom actually types out the word "okay" and puts "smile" instead of using periods at the ends of her sentence. She also randomly capitalizes words for no reason...
lose and loose aren't the same thing either! This one in particular makes me rage because I know so many 30 and 40 year olds that don't seem to know the difference.
replying because I agree and to promote
What's sad about this is that when news of him beating RiRi came out I was horrified but I had also seen and read his interviews about growing up in a home of abuse and he always came off and sad and outraged on his mother's behalf. I honestly respected him for that even though I've never been a fan of his music. So his abuse didn't surprise me because these things tend to be a cycle. But I was surprised by how he handled it because I fully expected him to be contrite and sincerely sorry about what he did since he had been so candid about how his prior experience in an abusive home traumatized him.
I know that one of the reasons I'm personally so hard on Brown is not just the abuse itself but that he doesn't seem to make the connection between his mother's abuse and that he did the same thing to RiRi. He hates his stepfather TO THIS DAY but expects everyone to be over it already when it comes to his abuse. Also, RiRi's friends have said that this wasn't the first time that Brown had been violent. If he would have seemed honestly regretful (instead of leaking nude photos and rumors that she gave him herpes or cheated therefore asked for it) I for one would have let it go pretty quickly because he's young and has plenty of time to change.
I totally agree with you that part of the reason that people are hung up on Brown is because he's a young, black male but I honestly think this is a small part among a bunch of other factors. People keep bringing up Charlie Sheen but Sheen is also clearly mentally ILL and an addict. This doesn't give him a free pass but it does mitigate some of the responsibility he has over his actions when he's doing them under the influence of either drugs or a manic episode. Brown is NOT mentally ill or, as far as I know addicted to drugs or alcohol; he also is not remorseful which one would hope would be part of the rehabilitation process which in turn is part of justice being served. If you feel that someone has served their sentence which wasn't appropriately harsh to begin with and hasn't learned a single thing from it then it's fair to think that he's still a danger (especially if he's making jokes about it)
Also, have you considered that part of the reason that no one gives a crap about Rihanna and why she is victim blamed is also because SHE is black? Furthermore, part of the reason that the black community has been so bafflingly supportive of Chris Brown and dismissive of RiRi is solely because he's a black MAN and protecting that male priviledge trumps any concern ever for women's rights (see Anita Hill and the poor girl raped by Mike Tyson) and that some of us seem to think that centuries of racism somehow excuse black men ONLY from any accountability? There's this weird sense of betrayal some blacks have towards RiRi as if by her going to the police she's airing our collective dirty laundry and throwing black men under the bus when actually she could have been killed.
Finally, we don't know why she's forgiven Brown - it could be to save her career, it could be because she's still deluded and in love with him, it could be out of sincere forgiveness. But we do know that they insane backlash against her pretty much prohibits her from doing anything else but forgiving him at least in public. All the articles on Jezebel have been pretty supportive of Rihanna and protective of others trying to force a role model image on her IMO. I wish that she would consider how young girls are going to view her mixed reactions but strictly speaking I get that it's not her job to make a point.
Also, I don't need to personally know a victim of abuse/murder/rape to be outraged on their behalf and to suggest so is disturbing to me frankly. I emphathize with others because they are part of humanity not only members of my family or inner circle.
Seriously! No one is beating down the doors of black women and East Asian men to date us most of the time. The majority of my girlfriends are Asian and Asian American and very few of them will even date Asian men (the mostly applies to the East Asian women) I understand the reasons for this are complex and some of it is their fear that men of their own culture have more rigid views of gender roles. I'll buy that up to a certain point but it seems that the only men they are even attracted to are non-Asian men which points to some other issue of how Asian men are gendered as either more feminine in appearance or hypermasculine culturally in terms of being patriarchal and stern.
I find it weird how much rappers in general overassociate themselves with the person that signed them, produces them or discovered them. Drake does this about Lil' Wayne too and it's grating. Do they owe this person lifelong shout outs and cameos on every track or album? I blame P Diddy for this trend. Ever since he was in that Biggie video it seems like this has become more of a thing.
THIS!!! It's about "whew, aren't you glad some white is lightening up that mix" and not "Yay, racial progress!"
"Of course, when people of different races marry that often leads to having gorgeous mixed race children,"
Really? Groan. I know people think this is a compliment but it treats mixed-race people like designer dog breeds.
Also, these numbers sound great but they don't mention the overall asymmetrical nature of interracial marriages. Sure more blacks are marrying whites but isn't it significant that it's overwhelmingly black men and white women? What about the asymmetrical prevalence of the other race-gender pairs such as white men/Asian women, black men/Asian women? Are people from both communities as cool with seeing the opposite of those common pairings?
As a woman of color married to a mostly white guy I'm glad people are more accepting of interracial marriages but the issue is MUCH more complicated than these numbers suggest.
eh, I found Lil Kim's sexual persona far more problematic than anything Minaj is doing which largely seems tongue in cheek and playful. (Also, Lil Kim looks cray cray here - her black Barbie look is a horrible misstep). Here's a good piece on how Minaj is being slightly misjudged. My favorite quote is "The politics of selling out aside, I am deeply troubled with how we read Lady Gaga as a brilliant postmodern pop artist and Nicki as little more than a fake who plays dress up for cash. What does that say about our understandings of Black women as related to the politics of respectability?
Roman Polanski's victim forgave him too and while that's nice for her and probably necessary for her well being I give not a shit. The reason being is that these men are public figures that committed a crime as defined by the state. You notice that people forgive people who have murdered family members but that doesn't mean that the judicial system immediately releases them or can decide based on that fact alone that they should go up for parole or change/commute/pardon their sentences. As a member of the state I not only have a right to know about it but sometimes I can read the police report and I can certainly have an opinion on whether I want that person in my community, buy their products or consume their image, and personally assess whether they have been rehabilitated, etc. Forgiveness is a personal thing between the accuser and the accused; justice, and whether it's been met, is something that a society, its people and its institutions determine.
Gosh Jan, it's not like Rihanna is dead! Can't we get over this already?! He said he was sorry (that his punching offends people)!1!
Yeah, I don't think that public shaming on a small and reasonable scale is a big deal for a child - shameful actions deserved to be shamed - it's a powerful deterrent. Also, she didn't know it was wrong? Give me a break. The fact that she would even use such an excuse is pure remorseless shananigans. However, the whole news picking it up factor makes me cringe. I have no idea why the parents would agree to it.
Also, he's hot.
yeah, when I had braids and now that I have natural hair I've had a couple of random peeps - grown ups - come up and stroke my hair. Both times it was white folks with a fascination with black hair. I've heard other black women with natural hair that have similar stories.
